Is she cheating you?

Suspicion in some places is shattering and disastrous.

What you expect of the other person he is very likely to become like it.

If you think that that person is good, he likely will elevate himself to meet your expectations, but if you think that he is bad, you likely are going to see the reality stooping down to match your expectations.

In How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie suggests “Giving others a great reputation to live up to.”

This is called The Expectation Effect.

Yes, it’s possible that sometimes cold waters of cheating might sweep away your trust, yet overall it’s beneficial in relationship, work, and in all other dealings.

What I’m saying here might appear flimsy to you at first, but give it a long, hard look, and you’ll find many businesses standing on this policy.

How?

A lot of businesses give the customers the guarantee that if they didn’t like their products post-purchase, they can return them and take back their full money without any questioning, though they keep a time cap to this condition.

Many people would readily think that there’re lots of mean guys out there to use the products and then return it right in time to get their money back.

But that so many businesses are blossoming and flourishing chiefly due to this policy (called risk reversal policy) tells that it’s fruitful.

True, there’re folks out on the fringes who take advantage of this money back guarantee, but their percentage is very tiny compared to those who purchase the products just because there’s this reassuring offer shining at the back.

Had it not been for this policy, it would have deterred people who genuinely wanted to buy the product from making the purchase because of their uncertainty of making a good choice.

To pound home that this principle works elsewhere as well, I’ll repeat Carnegie’s suggestion of “Giving others a reputation to live up to.”

If, for instance, your child is going out, and you say that you trust him, it’s very unlikely that he will break your trust.

On the other hand, if you bear a suspicion against him, you likely will see him making it a reality.

The core therefore is that we must have better opinions about others and they will surprise us with their good nature.

A caveat: This obviously doesn’t mean that you hand a blank cheque to any rowdy-looking person on the road and hope that he won’t take advantage out of your foolishness.

Nor it means that you leave the doors of your closet open believing that guys around you are just angels and your valuables will remain safe.

This is being gullible, over-trusting, foolish.