Revealed: Why you can't say no to others

If presently you can’t drum up the courage to say no to others, then admit it – the scathing truth is that you don’t give your work a priority.

You likely think that you can do your work any time afterwards, and this is the reason why the requests of others – which are timebound unlike yours appear more urgent to you.

(That what’s delayed is delayed, sometimes forever.)

So?

Top import for you to pursue a few tasks and have a strict work regimen because then it would get easier for you to say no to others.

So go ahead now and write down what’s to be done and tell yourself that you have to check off this particular task before such and such date, and you’ll likely get the required guts to say no to others’ requests.

Gripping?

Then put it to practice – now.

If you’re following your work regimen and are unable to fulfil others’ low-important requests, don’t care about them.

Those who have so thin regards for your aims and tasks shouldn’t be there to suck your energy anyway.

Because you might agree with me if I say that a friend is he who respects your time and priorities. If someone fails in this test, then he isn’t a friend, he is an opportunist.

This might appear brutal or selfish to many romantics – but it’s harsh, cold, dry truth. The sooner we thrust it down our throats, the better for our progress.

I admit that learning this lesson for me was riddled with painful cracks.

Important, I can easily say no to my children and closest ones who hold a great importance in my life. And it therefore holds no reason why I hesitate saying no to others.

Maybe this could be true with you as well. When dealing with your family members, you’re frank or even blunt in conveying your denial, but when it comes to doing the same with others, you fail to muster up the guts to say no.

You wear a face when dealing with others – don’t you?

When dealing with our family members, we don’t think about pleasing them. but when it comes to others, we become a people pleaser.

Because admit it…we desire to show ourselves in a good light in society. And there’s no inherent wrong in this desire, but when it begins to hurt our core values and interests, then it’s like slavery.

Here’re 3 measures you can implement right away to get comfortable in saying no:

1. Jot down your key tasks in your diary and impose a strict time limit on their completion
2. Explain to others that you’re under certain obligations not to miss the deadline
3. Put yourself under an oath (explained below)

Well, the oath explained…

These days I’m curbing the times I check my emails. So if any email regarding work is pushed on my table, I can simply tell the requester that I’m under an oath for not checking my emails more than 3 times a week.

If the requester is offended by this, it’s his problem, not mine.

A caveat, though…take care that you don’t turn down others’ requests out of selfishness or self-centeredness. Sometimes when it’s career-threatening or life-saving then it’s important for us to keep down our work.

But, so far their other low-critical requests are concerned, the bad news?

If you haven’t planned your time, others are going to do it for you, but This way they would have already done the heavy lifting of throwing your core interests out of the equation.